Dating is always a slightly daunting process, involving the need to gather our courage to reveal that we like someone - and that they may not like us... But we're not all the same in our levels of anxiety around the dating game. For some of us, dating is especially arduous for one particular reason that we may not have considered in enough depth: our childhoods... Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/38rH2Lc Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2PCosqT FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2sdN69s “In the course of any adult life, there will be periods when we’ll end up involved in that slightly odd, slightly unrepresentative and invariably slightly challenging activity: looking. Most people around us won’t be any the wiser, but with greater or lesser subtlety, we will be scanning: suggesting coffees and lunches, accepting every invitation, giving out our email addresses and thinking with unusual care about where to sit on train journeys. Sometimes the rigmarole will be joyful; at times, a bore. But for a portion of us, as many as one in four, it will count as one of the hardest things we ever have to do. Fun won’t remotely come into it. This will be closer to trauma. And it will be so for a reason that can feel more humiliating still: because, a long time ago now, we had a very bad childhood - one whose impact and legacy we still haven’t yet wholly mastered. It may not look like it, but babies are also looking out for love. They’re not going out in party smocks or slipping strangers’ their phone numbers. They are lying more or less immobile in cribs and are capable of little besides the occasional devastating cute smile. But they too are looking out for someone’s arms to feel safe in; for someone who can soothe them, someone who can stroke their head, tell them it will all be OK when things feel desperate and lend them a breast to suck on. They are looking - as the psychologists call it - to get attached…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RMNd6N Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We're often in a position of deeply hoping that someone on whom we depend might change: become (perhaps) less defensive or less angry, kinder or more thoughtful... A lot of our energy can be spent trying to prompt them to evolve. But can people in fact ever change? And how come we've ended up in a position of wanting them to change so badly? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Rnq0rg Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2DLxD2I FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/363o8bB “‘Can people change?’ The question may sound somewhat abstract and disinterested, as if one were asking for a friend or for the universe, but it is likely to be a good deal more personally - and painfully - motivated than that. We ask, typically and acutely, when we’re in a relationship with someone who is inflicting a great deal of pain on us: someone who is refusing to open their hearts or can never stop lying, someone who is aggressive or detached, someone who is harming themselves or managing to devastate us. We ask too because the one immediately obvious response to frustration isn’t in this case open to us: we’re not able to simply get up and go, we are too emotionally or practically invested to give up, something roots us to the spot. And so, with the example of one troublesome human in mind, we start to wonder outwards about human nature in general, what it might be made of and how malleable it could turn out to be...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2sIHX9F Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta Mihardja deancarensyta.brushd.com/about Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many of us are walking around with an enormous secret burden: we deeply hate ourselves. That makes us very suspicious of anyone who likes us - and prone to staying in unfortunate romantic and professional situations that offer us far less than we deserve. We need to learn the art of becoming a better friend to ourselves. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/33qyJLK Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/35HsyVp FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2QWdtv0 “There is one particularly salient question we should ask in order to measure our levels of emotional well-being: do you broadly feel that you have the right to exist and are, on balance, a good enough human being? Or, whatever your outward circumstances and achievements, do you generally feel you are a piece of excrement, who has only got through life by deluding others (who would quickly abandon you if they knew even a fraction of the truth about you) and, because you are a liar, are only ever one or two steps away from deserved humiliation and catastrophe?...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2KUoZTG Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Noelle Smith Design www.noellesmithdesign.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 The problem with anxious moods is that they often hide from us what it is we're actually concerned about. It feels like we're worrying about this or that, when in reality, the origin of our anxiety actually lies elsewhere. Here is a wonderfully simple tool to learn what is really on our mind - in order that we can start to address it and be liberated from it. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2QxFp82 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2O5VqAK FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2OtxbeB “One of the most difficult features of anxiety is that it tends to be all-consuming. It squats in the middle of our minds and refuses to let anything else in or through. Though the anxiety causes us great pain, it denies any attempts to be questioned, analysed, probed or reconfigured. We are both terrified and unable to think beyond our terror. Our thoughts become low, relentless, repetitive, stymied things: returning again and again to the issue of whether the door is locked, the accounts were signed off or the social media account is not under attack. Anxiety dominates over and excludes any other form of mental activity; all that will be in our minds is terror. Impregnable and bullying, anxiety in effect shuts down our central faculties…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/344z0Fv Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Zedem Animations www.zedemanimations.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Knowing how emotionally mature someone is can be the most important thing to know about them; but this knowledge may take (painful) years to acquire. This is why we've devised a very quick and very reliable test that can - in a few minutes - help us to ascertain our own and other people's level of emotional maturity. It all has to do with how one responds to vulnerability. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2CBlIEp Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2NJDhIP FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Oe4PVM “One of the more puzzling aspects of the way we’re built is that our emotional development does not necessarily or automatically keep pace with our physical growth. We can be fifty-five on the outside and four and a half in terms of our impulses and habitual manner of communicating - just as we can be on the threshold of adulthood physically while an emotional sage within. In order to assess our own and others’ emotional development, we can make use of a single deceptively simple question that quickly gets to the core of our underlying emotional ‘age’. When someone on whom we depend emotionally lets us down, disappoints us, or leaves us hanging and uncertain, what is our characteristic way of responding?...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/33JCSeS Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Elaine Song www.songelaine.com Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 This is a film about being stuck in a relationship - neither happily being able to stay nor freely being able to move on. Why do we find it so hard to move forward? Where does the feeling of being stuck come from, and what might we do to overcome it? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/36zJjD2 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2Cgtq6D FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2WMpl3D “This is for those among us who are, secretly, very stuck - that is, who are entirely committed to staying, wholly tempted to leave - and entirely unable to resolve their dilemma one way or the other. We, the stuck ones, alternate between periods in which we manage to convince ourselves that it might after all be bearable and recurring crises when we acknowledge that we are - by remaining - well on the way to ruining the one life we will ever be granted. Torn between intense shame and untenable claustrophobia, weak in the face of our conundrum, we may start to fantasise that someone or something else - a parent, the government, a war, an illness, a divine command - might magically resolve the problem for us; like desperate children, we hope against hope that something might just show up...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2NIXmxv Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope www.gemmagreenhope.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We're usually taught that being loyal to people through difficulty is always the right way. But in fact, at points, a good life requires us to do something that may feel highly strange, but also highly liberating: give up on one or two people, with whom we have already tried too hard for our own good. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Pt1Uuf Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2BNGAru FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/34afV4a “For noble and very understandable reasons, we’ve come to associate maturity and kindness with a capacity not to give up on people. Our heroes and heroines keep faith with those they love. They don’t throw in the towel when trouble rears its head. They put up with the hardships and friction. Running away is disloyalty. Many things are dispensable: people shouldn’t be…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Creative seed creativeseed.co.za/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Stoicism, Daoism, Machiavelli, Nietzsche, Existentialism, and the basics of Plato explained in a short and sweet 5-minute run. Who could tackle such a thing? Popular Toronto-based content creator AzzyLand will give us a whistlestop tour of Philosophy’s most important theories. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 To put it differently, is acting on impulse, blinded by love, really the cleverest way of choosing the person we will be with forever? Adam Saleh, best known for his hip-hop music videos and online pranks, is a member of the dating app generation. But, as a native New Yorker of Yemeni heritage, everyone else in his family has had an arranged marriage. Now, aged 25, Adam finds out if it’s time to wave goodbye to the lure of physical attraction and short-term excitement, and open the door to logic by having an arranged marriage himself. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 No...Actually, it needs a closer look. In this episode, we look at Capitalism and Socialism by running rival cupcake stands in a downtown market in Los Angeles. There, good friends Hannah Stocking and Anwar Jibawi, two LA-based TR-me Creators best known for their comedy skits, will become rival cupcake-stand competitors. Using different economic principles, they will prove or disprove whether greed is good. Tough sell. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 Democracy is the most perfect system of government ever invented. It’s also delivered some of the worst decisions ever made. In this episode British rapper and TR-me creator Lady Leshurr launches a bid for power at a school in London. She will run an election campaign against experienced teachers who have the best interests of the children at heart, with a manifesto based on false hopes and empty promises. Promise this will be an invaluable lesson for all. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 Technological advances in artificial intelligence (AI) are pushing the boundaries of the characteristics that define a machine. One of those characteristics is something that we once believed to be a strictly-human attribute: the ability to make art. Luzu, originally from Spain but who now lives in LA, established his global reputation on TR-me playing video games. Luzu will meet an AI that creates art and will face a test to see if he can identify art created by this machine when it’s up against art created by humans. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 Anxiety has replaced depression as the number one mental health issue amongst teens. In this timely episode, we will explore the best ways to stop being anxious about being anxious. How? By following the journey of actual teenagers experiencing anxiety as they go discover how to deal with this ailment. Meet Spanish twins Emilio and Ivan Martinez (The Martinez Twins) who moved away from home to live in LA, where they built a fanbase of over four million subscribers with their content. Without family support, barely speaking any English, and the pressure to create content pushed these young creators into overwhelming feelings of anxiety. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 This is the BIG one, the question that has been searched for as long as humans have traveled the earth. Perspective on this matter is everything. One such perspective comes from British TR-me creator Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, who suffers from two rare nerve disorders as well as having impaired hearing, vision and mobility. In this episode, she shares her Seven Secrets of Happiness. Love learning on TR-me? Check out TR-me's new and improved learning hub (tr-me.com/utitle-learning) for everything from well-being to history to how tos and all of the things in between. You'll also find more great TR-me Originals content full of your favourite TR-me Creators. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium now, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 Emotional Education is at the core of what we need to lead a fulfilled life - and is what The School of Life teaches online and in physical branches around the world. In this film, founder of The School, Alain de Botton discusses what emotional education is - and why we so badly need it. He also introduces the School's new book, AN EMOTIONAL EDUCATION, available here: bit.ly/2mBpDN5 This lecture was recorded at the Cliveden Literary Festival on the 28th of September, 2019. For more on this festival, see here: clivedenliteraryfestival.org/ Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2mzTo0J Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2o7j8SA MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2oWYh4N You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We are - most of us - incredibly bad at choosing partners who will make us happy and who will be warm and supportive. It may look like bad luck but it is far worse than this: it is an unconscious strategy to frustrate ourselves that we need to understand in order to overcome it once and for all. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2oCgHYq Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2mVQFPv FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2nPnmy6 “The fastest, easiest and most inadvertent technique for messing up one’s life remains that of getting into a serious relationship with the wrong person: with very little effort, and without any innate taste for catastrophe, one can end up - by middle age or earlier - contemplating wholesale financial ruin, loss of parental rights, social opprobrium, homelessness, nervous exhaustion and shattered esteem, to begin a lengthy list of harrowing side-effects…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2nVIsuM Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Damn Fine Media www.damnfinemedia.co.uk/about Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Launching 8th of October, The School of.. will air for 3 weeks over 7 episodes. The School of… is the new series that tackles life’s eternal, moral and ethical issues with the simplicity and wit that only The School of Life can bring. Follow as TR-me Creators go on a quest for answers to some of life’s biggest questions. Featuring The Martinez Twins, Adam Saleh, Lady Leshurr, Luzu, Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, Hannah Stocking, Anwar Jibawi and Azzyland. You choose - watch all episodes uninterrupted with TR-me Premium, or wait to watch new episodes free with ads. Learn more at: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6358146. Check out TR-me Premium at: tr-me.com/utitle-premiumoriginals. See if Premium is available in your country at: goo.gl/A3HtfP

 This is a film for those moments when we (again) hit rock bottom, when we're back in that old familiar place where nothing feels right, we hate ourselves and the future looks bleak. It's so easy to be sad - but maybe there could be another option? Maybe we could learn to make friends with despair and move beyond it... Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2mpWX9q Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2kJtZ3A FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2mrQzhy “Maybe you’ve crashed again - and you’re in the dark familiar place. As ever, one mess-up reminds you of all the fiascos you’ve generated in the past and, more broadly, of your fundamental idiocy and - beyond that - the doubtful nature of your entire existence. The next steps from here are well known: retreat, despair, flagellation, feeling yet smaller, ever greater doubt and deeper self-loathing. You have mined this cavern expertly over the years. Maybe - before this latest mini catastrophe - you’d been feeling a bit stronger, you’d come to expect a little more of life. As if! This is a return to reality; you are back now where you assume you belong, the sad subterranean place from which you should have never have sought to escape…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2kSm44e Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Noelle Smith Design www.noellesmithdesign.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 The weird thing about relationships is that the more we get to know someone, the harder it can be to desire them - and vice versa. What explains the curious way in which love and desire often split apart? Why can it be so hard to desire a person once one lives with them and cares deeply for them? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2kOj0G3 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2kzoiW5 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2lPCP07 “One of the frequent and painful paradoxes of romantic life is that the more we get to know and love someone, the harder it can be to summon up any sincere wish to sleep with them. Intimacy and closeness, far from fostering deeper sexual desire, can be the very ingredients that destroy excitement - whereas having only just recently met a person and not feeling too much for them can set up awkward yet ideal preconditions for wanting very badly to take them to bed…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Daniel Stankler danstan.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We're taught to think very badly of selfishness but in truth, completely obliterating ourselves and living only for others and their wants (as it can be so easy to do) may be a fast route to depression and inner numbness. We may need - on occasion - to do something that sounds rather surprising: relearn how to be beautifully and intelligently selfish. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2m2VCF4 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2kto7eY FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2k6fl6a “From a young age, we are taught that one of the greatest risks to our integrity and flourishing is our own selfishness. We must - wherever possible - learn to think more of other people, keep in mind how often we fail to see things from their point of view, and be aware of the small and large ways in which we disadvantage and ignore collective interests. Being good means, at its most basic, putting other people more squarely at the center of our lives. But for some of us, the problem isn’t so much that we are heedless to this advice, rather that we take it far too closely and remorselessly to heart. So mindful are we of the risks of selfishness, we run into an opposite danger: an abnegation of the self, a modesty that borders on self-erasure, an automatic impulse to give everything over to competing parties, a shyness about pressing oneself forward and a manic inability to say ‘no’ or cause the slightest frustration to others.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gabriella Marsh gabriellamarsh.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We have published a new book, a collection of our very best writings. To order a copy of The School of Life: An Emotional Education, click here: bit.ly/2jZ0A56 This film is released to coincide with the publication of our landmark new book The School of Life: An Emotional Education, an anthology of our most important writing of the last decade. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2k26Mti Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2kgUoWv MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2lWiSom You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Zedem Animation www.zedemanimations.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We live in a culture that hugely values activity and 'hard work'. But - paradoxically - the hardest work we can sometimes do is to stop rushing around and, for once, sit with our thoughts, analyse our feelings, take stock of where we are and understand ourselves better. From the outside, it might look as though we're being lazy. But we're in fact doing the hard work of processing our emotions, in a way that can be hugely helpful to our mental well-being and, in its way, remarkably difficult. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Lgzq3r Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2Pnb1yi FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Uh2sUu “At times, perhaps without quite knowing why, we slip into a resolutely ‘lazy’ mood. We’re simply not able to write anything new or can’t face setting up more meetings. We don’t want to clean the fridge or go out to befriend prospective clients. All we have an appetite for, it seems, is to loll on the sofa and maybe dip randomly into a book, wander down to the shops and buy a packet of biscuits or spend an hour or so soaking in the bath. We might, at an extreme, merely want to sit by the window and stare at the clouds. For a long time.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Zngxpk Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Andrei Verioti verioti.co/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Though one might imagine that it's the available ones who charm us, the curious truth is that very often it's the elusive, not-returning-our-calls ones that really develop a power over us. This is a film that seeks to explain the curious hold that unavailable people have over our psyches. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Z5pALp Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2Hgn2Px FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Nq6mJz MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/31PyNo4 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Zedem Animations www.zedemanimations.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 What many of us long for more than anything else is a simpler life; we feel overwhelmed by our responsibilities, schedules, commitments and obligations. This is a film about how to create the simpler life we deserve. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2KWws3N Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2ZazIOc FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/30m0nJ6 “It is well understood by good parents that life should only ever get so exciting for a baby: after friends have come around and brought presents and made animated faces, after there has been some cake and some cuddles, after there have been a lot of bright lights and perhaps some songs too, enough is enough. The baby will start to look stern and then burst into tears and the wise parent knows that nothing is particularly wrong (though the baby may by now be wailing): it is just time for a nap. The brain needs to process, digest and divide up the welter of experiences that have been ingested, and so the curtains are drawn, baby is laid down next to the soft toys and soon it is asleep and calm descends. Everyone knows that life is going to be a lot more manageable again in an hour.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Pl2yvN Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Hope-Green www.gemmagreenhope.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We are collectively obsessed with the idea that an attractive person is, first and foremost, someone who looks terrific. But that's to ignore the widespread phenomenon of the objectively good looking individual who nevertheless fails to hold much appeal - and vice versa. Here is a guide to the psychology of that too seldom earnestly-studied issue: hotness. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2MZghp4 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2H2vJNi FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2KDkrQG “Understandably enough, our societies pay vast attention to the idea of ‘sexiness’; far more questionably, they tempt us to believe that it might be easy to understand what this quality consists of. The leading suggestion takes its starting point from the biological sciences: we learn that sex aims at successful reproduction and genetic fitness in the coming generation. Therefore ‘sexiness’ must logically comprise a host of semi-conscious signals of fertility and of resistance to disease: bilateral facial symmetry, large bright pupils, full lips, youthful skin and melanin-rich hair…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2YX1WA2 Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Creative Seed creativeseed.co.za/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 The hardest people to break up with are those who tell us they love us while, simultaneously, not in fact behaving in a loving way towards us. They force us to eject them from our lives while denying us the sense that we have any right to do so. They say the right words without ever doing the right things. They play dangerously with our minds. Here is a short guide to extricating ourselves and saving our sanity. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/33nyfYe Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2ZAqg7E FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2YJvxsq “Break-ups are almost invariably difficult, but that isn’t to say there aren’t different degrees of complexity at stake in different constellations. Nor does it preclude the existence of a cataclysmically painful but too-little known type whom we can call the hardest person in the world to break up with. A relationship with them begins like this: you’re very drawn to them. Perhaps they very much attract you physically and their personality is compelling as well. You admire them and, in areas, feel a lot of sympathy for them too; there’s probably something in their past which really interests and touches you. You have no desire to break up, and in fact, you’d love this to last till the end.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2YDAQxC Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Artrake Studio Animations www.artrake.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We're often hugely ambitious about our plans for happiness, picturing the years of joy we want to set in motion. However, at points, we should realise the greater wisdom of learning to enjoy the day already in hand, and drawing satisfaction from that most precious and most neglected of units of time; the present moment. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2LJTT3b Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/331QQsK FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2K50Ate “Without us perhaps quite noticing, much of what we place our hopes in will be ready for us in a very a long time indeed, in months or even decades from now (if ever): the successful completion of a novel, a sufficient sum of money to buy a house or begin a new career, the discovery of a suitable partner, a move to another country. In the list of our most intensely-felt hopes, few entries stand to come to fruition this season or next, let alone by tonight.But occasionally, life places us in a situation where our normal long-range hopeful way of thinking grows impossible. You’ve had a car accident; a very bad one. For weeks, it seemed like you might not make it at all, now you’re out of a coma and back home, but you still have multiple broken bones, serious bruises and constant migraines. It’s unclear from here when you’ll be going back to work - or whether you ever will. When someone asks how things are, one answer seem to fit above all: we’re taking it one day at a time.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2LPDVV5 Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many of us walk the earth with a feeling that, in order to acceptable, we need to be something very special indeed. It could sound like ambition, but it's closer to neurosis - and a source of constant and unnecessary pain. Here are some tips to unwind the affliction. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2MaUg6q Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2LCXXSQ FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2ZaayQv “It’s a rather simple question that quickly gets to the core of someone’s sense of well-being and legitimacy: did your childhood leave you feeling that you were - on balance - OK as you were? Or did you somewhere along the way derive an impression that you needed to be extraordinary in order to deserve a place on the earth? And, to raise an associated question: are you therefore now relaxed about your status in life? Or have you become either a manic overachiever or filled with shame at your so-called mediocrity?” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2JOOWUB Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Noelle Smith Design www.noellesmithdesign.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Despite appearances to the contrary, many of us adults are still - secretly - at school. It isn't that we actually go to school, just that we inhabit the mindsets that schools love to inculcate and that involve a high degree of passivity, resignation and unhelpful compliance. To honour our potential, it may - finally - be time to leave school! Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2XMpurg Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2XMRjQr FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Y7UG3G “Technically, most of us leave school at 18 - an event that tends to be vividly etched in memory and surrounded by considerable ceremony and emotion. And yet, rather oddly, despite appearances, many of us in fact don’t manage to leave school at that point at all. In a deep part of our minds, we may still be there, deep into adulthood, not sitting in a classroom precisely, but in terms of how our minds work, as much stuck within the confines of a school-based world-view as if we were showing up for assembly every day - generating immense and unnecessary degrees of unhappiness and compromise for ourselves in the process…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Jzhscx Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta Mihardja www.behance.net/deancarensa5a9 Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 One of the greatest sources of anxiety and despair is the feeling that there can only be one answer to major problems we face: one ideal job, one ideal lover, one ideal way of life... But we should consider the extent to which there is always, just below the surface, a Plan B available. Flexing our mental Plan B muscle hugely expands our sense of safety and spontaneity. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2LQtMGS Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2xBH0z7 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2XU0VYF “We grow up - inevitably - with a strong attachment to a plan A, that is, an idea of how our lives will go and what we need to do to achieve our particular set of well-defined goals. For example, we’ll do four years of law school, then move out west, buy a house and start a family. Or, we’ll go to medical school for 7 years, then go to another country and train in our speciality of interest and hope to retire by fifty. Or we’ll get married and raise two children with an emphasis on the outdoors and doing good in the world…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/32iKrZt Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Ramas www.nataliarama.com @natalia_ramas Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Depression doesn't have to ruin our lives. The most urgent thing we need to do is understand the ways in which depression is unlike sadness - and why self-understanding is the primary route to a cure. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2LygRto Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2XknJN4 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2NtQKq0 “Almost half of us will suffer from depression at some point in our lives, but the condition remains badly misunderstood and therefore often poorly treated. At the heart of our collective difficulty with depression is a confusion about what it actually is - and in particular, how it can be distinguished from a state all of us know very well and with which it is has a distracting number of similarities, namely sadness. It’s because we unwittingly tend to apply to cases of depression a number of assumptions drawn from, and better suited to, an understanding of sadness that we end up suffering far more than we should…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2XlldGq Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch nickhilditch.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Panic Attacks - feelings of overwhelming worry - are a hugely normal and highly survivable feature of being an ordinary human being. What we need is simply a few rules as to how to handle them when they wash over us. How to cope with Panic Attacks Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2xa2Lpu Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2JbxFDI FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2X7sDlm “During a panic attack, the pervasive worry that we normally carry within us and that is typically content merely gently to corrode away our lives promptly changes tack and decides it might be better to try to kill us off instead - preferably very soon.We’re meant to give an hour-long speech in a couple of minutes but we stand petrified in the wings of the theatre, our mouth entirely dry, our heart racing and our mind unable to remember so much as the first letters of the alphabet, let alone what our name is.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: hbit.ly/31SnOeq Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Julia Marchowska julia-marchowska.format.com/my-gallery Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 It sounds peculiar but many of us are, beneath the surface, surprisingly scared of the one thing we all say we want: happiness. We can be remarkably skilled at dodging an emotion that is scary because it feels so unfamiliar and so illegal (for us). We should - of course - learn to outgrow our inhibition and give happiness the place it deserves in our lives. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Rj2nOC Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2WR1DGG FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Kpo3br “Given how much we all long to be happy, we might presume that accepting the possibility of happiness in our lives would be an uncomplicated, serene and automatic process. But for many of us, however theoretically attached we might be to the notion of being happy, the possibility of actually being so is liable to trigger deep ambivalence and fear. We would - it appears - often prefer to be worried and sad rather than attempt take on the risks surreptitiously connected in our minds with positive moods. We may - however paradoxical it sounds - be nothing less than afraid to be happy…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: David Crisp www.mistercrisp.com/momeportfolio/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We spend an inordinate amount of time worrying 'what other people think.' But for some of us, there may come a time when we need to step beyond living for our reputation in the eyes of others - and have to learn how to cope without the warm blanket of social status. Here is a guide. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2MCxGFG Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2K7Npdz FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2XAac53 “Reputation might be defined as the claim that one can make on the goodwill of strangers; it is what your name will mean to those who don’t know you, who spend almost no time thinking of you. It’s what you will get reduced to when you aren’t illuminated by love. How your reputation is assessed depends on the extent to which you have fulfilled, or violated, the ideals and aspirations of your society. Most of us are properly known to, and liked by, five to ten people. When it comes to everyone else, reputation is what will decide what we have been worth...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2X5ZTJ2 Watch more films on Work and Capitalism in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLcapitalism You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Danny Moran madadamfilms.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 One of the hardest things in the universe to understand is the interior of our own minds: we can have spent decades on the earth before we've grasped even very basic things about who we are and how we function. It's not for nothing that the Ancient Greeks felt philosophy had only one command: Know yourself! But however arduous, the journey can be facilitated by a few well-aimed bits of advice… Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2QIccWh Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2Kp8fV5 2HV4YeL FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/knowing-who-one-is/ “In Ancient Greece, the philosopher Socrates famously declared that the unexamined life was not worth living. Asked to sum up what all philosophical commandments could be reduced to, he replied: ‘Know yourself.’ Knowing yourself has extraordinary prestige in our culture. It has been framed as quite literally the meaning of life.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2WLoouH Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2HV4YeL Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Creative Seed creativeseed.co.za/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 A great many of us have - in one way or another - been traumatised somewhere in our past. Not only have we suffered greatly, we are likely not to have been able properly to process and digest what we have gone through. A key feature of a good life is a capacity to look our trauma in the eye; and ensure that the future can be a whole lot more hopeful than the past. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2KaTtBs Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/30XzSL0 2wqDzL7 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2JJXPQm “Psychological trauma can be defined as a negative event so overwhelming that we cannot properly understand, process or move on from it - but, and this is the devilish aspect to it, nor can we properly remember it or reflect upon its nature and its effects on us. It is lodged within us but remains hidden from us, making its presence known only via symptoms and pains, altering our sense of reality without alerting us to its devilish subterranean operations.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2wqDzL7 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Sophia Pashaei www.sofiapashaei.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 However old we might be, none of us is ever quite emotionally mature - but having a list to hand of what maturity consists of might be a way of keeping score and nudging ourselves in the right direction. Here is a comprehensive list of what maturity might comprise. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2HJsry1 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2EoiQvY 2HxH3C0 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2YIRLuO “1. You realise that most of the bad behaviour of other people really comes down to fear and anxiety - rather than, as it is generally easier to presume, nastiness or idiocy. You loosen your hold on self-righteousness and stop thinking of the world as populated by either monsters or fools. It makes things less black and white at first, but in time, a great deal more interesting. 2. You learn that what is in your head can’t automatically be understood by other people. You realise that, unfortunately, you will have to articulate your intentions and feelings with the use of words - and can’t fairly blame others for not getting what you mean until you’ve spoken calmly and clearly.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2HxH3C0 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Sophie Olga De Jong www.sophieolga.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 It can be painfully scary to ask a partner if they still love us. So at points when we feel insecure, we may be tempted to go in for a very understandable but very counter--productive strategy: attention-seeking, that is irritating or nagging them to notice us, rather than making ourselves sufficiently vulnerable to ask them for the reassurance we crave. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2VlnJLR Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2W6f58w 2YpP1Te FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2WEhvrZ “One of the most obvious but in practice very hardest things to ask a partner, even one we name in our will and whose life is entirely entwined with ours, is: ‘Do you still love me?’ There would be so many reasons why they might not do so any more: we might have driven them to the limit with our admittedly at points really rather challenging behaviour. We’re not getting any younger. There are a lot of other people - especially at work and in the invisible parts of their life - who would have great things to offer them. It’s hard to trust anyone, given what can happen. Furthermore, the signs aren’t necessarily very good at the moment. They spend a lot of time on their phones. They’re a bit distracted. Their thoughts seem elsewhere.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Q1HerR Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2YpP1Te Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope www.gemmagreenhope.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 A lot of people are - rightly - very sceptical of what goes on under the word 'spirituality.' But might there be something of value nevertheless in aspects of what people call the spiritual? A short guide to what a highly rational mind might learn to appreciate within the concept of 'the spiritual.' Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2H7UCb1 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you lead a more fulfilled life: bit.ly/2Jorf5S 2H2Co9p FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2VWAl0o “The word spirituality has a capacity to divide people like few others. For some, it’s an innately beautiful touchstone, the designator of a special kind of experience that is so valuable, it is best left reverentially unexplored and pure, lest one disturb its ethereal mysteries with the cold hand of reason. For others, it’s nonsensical bunkum of appeal only to adolescent dreamers, the underemployed and the weak minded. But precisely because ‘spiritual experiences’ are so often either worshiped or derided, it pays to try to submit them to dispassionate and sober examination, not in order a priori to crush them or honour them, but so as to make them more intelligible, to friend and foe alike. Whatever our suspicions, spiritual moments are capable of being pinned down, split into their constituent elements and assessed with due regard. One should - and can - get respectfully rational about spirituality.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2JbNs7Z Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2H2Co9p Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many of us are prone to feelings of intense anxiety - and at the same time, experience immense shame for doing so. Yet there is nothing remotely embarrassing about being highly susceptible to anxiety. We need to understand the origins of our moods and learn to talk about them with an open heart and a resolute mind. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2XSD4Fm Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2L8swQN 2XW6cvt FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2GIVT6M “Every human worries on occasion, but for some of us, the suffering is on a quite different and more life-destroying scale: we are, without wishing to be ungrateful or absurd, more or less permanently anxious.What makes matters so hard for us, the anxious, is that we are unable to maintain a distinction between what objectively deserves terror and what automatically and unthinkingly provokes terror. The quintessential calming question - ‘Is there actually anything to be scared of here?’ - can’t even enter consciousness: there’s no sense that a benign response could even be possible.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2IOWyXZ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2XW6cvt Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Peter Caires www.petercaires.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 One of the most intimidating things we're ever called to do is to introduce ourselves to a stranger in a social context. Knowing how to pull this off isn't a small question of etiquette, it goes right to the heart of knowing how to feel we deserve to exist and need not feel crippled by shame. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2GpfYPB Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2PlzQad 2KTWiZv FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2GrKgRB “A party at the house of a friend, eleven o’clock, on a still-warm evening. A metre away from you, a group of people are chatting animatedly. Someone is telling an anecdote, it might be something about a train ride they took or the mishaps on someone’s bicycle, and their companions break in occasionally with rich laughter and stories of their own. The group as a whole seem confident and attractive and the main narrator especially so. But there may as well be a high solid brick wall or a lamprey-filled moat between you and they. There is resolutely no way you could ever move in to say hello. You smile your characteristic weak, loser’s smile, pretend to study the bookshelf - and leave the gathering ten minutes later.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2KTWiZv Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Alexandra Balan www.sashaanimates.com/about Sound Design: Volkan Kiziltug, www.VolkanKiziltug.com Music: "Chill Wave" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com), Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License, creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/ #SchoolOfLife #HowTo #Socialize

 Regularly exchanging a kiss with one's partner may seem a trivial matter, but in truth, it creates a vital point of connection which might help to save a relationship over the long term. We should take our kisses seriously. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Pjb3DS Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2IAxrqR 2VbYVtP FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2IBGQOP “One of the constantly surprising aspects of relationships is just how much reassurance we need to believe that we are actively wanted - and, equally, how easy it is to forget this awkward fact both about ourselves and the other person. The standard narrative of love tells us that insecurity about being wanted is going to be at its height at the start of the dating period, when we are acutely - and rather sweetly - conscious of the many ways in which our partner might not be keen on taking things further. But, we assume, once a relationship has started, once there might be children, a home and an established pattern of life, then surely the fear of being unwanted should disappear...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2GnHuwz Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2VbYVtP Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta Mihardja www.behance.net/deancarensa5a9 Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/ #SchoolOfLife #Relationships #Kiss

 Maslow's Hierarchy, (or Pyramid), of Needs is one of the central ideas in modern economics and sociology. The work of a once little-known American psychologist, it has grown into an indispensable guide to understanding the modern world. This film explains who Maslow was, what his pyramid is, and why it matters so much. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2WWC6Yg Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2Io7HxF 2VysjqM FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2WQcz2G “One of the most legendary ideas in the history of psychology is located in an unassuming triangle divided into five sections referred to universally simply as ‘Maslow’s Pyramid of Needs’. This profoundly influential pyramid first saw the world in an academic journal in the United States in 1943, where it was crudely drawn in black and white and surrounded by dense and jargon-rich text. It has since become a mainstay of psychological analyses, business presentations and online lectures - and grown ever more colourful and emphatic in the process…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2UoJAGt Watch more films on Work and Capitalism in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLcapitalism You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2VysjqM Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth tr-me.com/utitle-somegreybloke Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Expecting that a romantic partner could answer all of our needs might sound very beautiful; but such idealism is in reality rather counter-productive, rendering us impatient, angry and ultimately bitter. We'd be advised to do something slightly unusual in order to love someone properly: expect a bit less of them. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2I7hIiE Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2FTglmw 2FQa76A FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2U9LnPA “It can feel very weird, and a bit threatening, to talk about taking the pressure off a relationship. Our collective, inherited Romantic culture likes to imagine functioning couples doing more or less everything together and being the centre of each other’s lives. The good couple is, we are told, one in which two people mean more or less everything to one another.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2FQa76A Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope www.gemmagreenhope.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many things go wrong in a childhood and so, understandably, we might want to try (as adults) to have a conversation with our parents about what happened when we were small. But a lot of the time, we'll draw a blank: if they were capable of understanding our complaint, they would probably not have frustrated us in the first place. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2UV4oBF Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2TxO5ZT 2HG7NRZ FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2urcMgH MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2OrE3Zt Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2HG7NRZ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan?lang=en-gb

 Our partners are usually the sources of encouragement and development, but there are times when - for a variety of their reasons - they would prefer for us not to grow, not to develop, not to change. We should explore the fears that lead them to stop us becoming who we are. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2JCB9Ck Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2TUosro 2U3oIUk FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2HS92ww MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2FqOW9X Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2U3oIUk Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch nickhilditch.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Part of the reason it's so hard to get over a crush is because we have no idea who our beloved really is: we idealise them because we have such a basic idea of who they really are. The best cure for love is therefore simple in structure: get to know them better… Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2TMMTHl Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2TY8pYI 2TdUk5h FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2TJOBJp MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2TjvVLG Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2TdUk5h Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley mobile.twitter.com/khyan?lang=en

 The pain that follows the end of any relationship can be hugely aggravated by our sense that the reason they ended it was because they discovered the truth about us: that we are miserable, awful, ugly wretches. But that's highly unlikely to be true - and says more about our psyches than it does about reality. The pain of the end of love can be mitigated by exploring how we feel about ourselves. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2THBick Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2Fjc0se 2UIem9g FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2JiwWDO “They’ve gone - and what we need most of all to understand is why? What is striking is that, despite what friends and well-meaning acquaintances tell us, we already know. It is us. We firmly and naturally assume that the explanation is primarily to do with us and our miserable failings. They’ve gone because we weren’t good enough. They got to know us better than almost anyone has ever done - and then, inevitably, felt horrified by the truth. It’s not the relationship that failed: we failed.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2FjX5hw Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/london/community/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Josh Saunders www.joshphilipsaunders.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Honesty is normally a very good thing; but is it always and at all points valuable within a relationship? Are there any things better left unsaid? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2VKkCgW Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2tYrYBE 2HrTWO0 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2NVFcbw MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2TzSpfB Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2HrTWO0 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley mobile.twitter.com/khyan?lang=en

 We might assume that people are either interesting or boring by nature. Far from it, being boring to others is a very avoidable mistake; and it is open to all of us to learn the art of proving interesting. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2TCdk1x Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2XNbNop 2CfTTBx FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2EQ6xIc “Some of the reason why we end up being inadvertently rude to people is that they are so polite with us, a politeness which gives us precious little indication of the ways in which we may be gravely offending, inconveniencing or boring them.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Hrh3s3 Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2CfTTBx Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Reflective Films www.reflectivefilms.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We all tend to say that we want to get together with a nice person; but in reality, 'nice people' can be very challenging to be in a relationship with - especially if we're not convinced of our own loveability. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2UeYM4X Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2INmzri 2T7v9WG FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2tKJQjy MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/london/community/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan

 Even the most normally eloquent and chatty people have a habit of falling silent with embarrassment on a date; here is a complete guide to the very best topics to discuss in order to make a date feel natural and, most importantly, effective. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2SB4rAH Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2SA5ctJ 2En3neL FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2HetY0F “Our initial impulse might be to pick up on a current event, some detail of the environment or a few impressive things about our careers. But if a date is at heart an audition for the emotional capacities required for the success of a long-term relationship, the real purpose of conversation must be to try to understand the deep self of the other person.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2UaeUEN Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2En3neL Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Direction, design and editing: Kim Alexander Animation: Kim Alexander, Anna Fyda, Ana García Sebastiá, Olga Makarchuk Background art: Kim Alexander, Toby Alexander Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 At dark moments when it seems our partner just doesn't care at all about us and barely remembers we exist, there is one sure fire way of attracting their attention once more: reminding them that we have choices, that we could be with someone else... Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2UY4acL Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2N68Jz2 2TQNWlD MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2E4Mqqz Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2TQNWlD Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We'd perhaps all like to be the sort of person that our friends feel they can confide in when they have difficulties and sorrows. But in reality, being seen as a trustworthy ally one can turn to at dark moments is a bit of an art. Here are the secrets of being a good confidant. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2X6ASum Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2SqPkyy 2UYyfZL FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2RUTTfu “It is a mark of character to be thought of as someone that others can safely confide in; there is a high degree of empathy, generosity and open-mindedness implied in being the person that friends instinctively turn to when everything has gone dark. But we may come to realise that, despite our best intentions, often others do not quite see us in this way. If we ask them directly what the matter is, they try to look cheerful and insist that everything is fine. We know it can’t be but nor do they seem inclined to open up to us. We end up lonely and a little helpless.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2UPhuzO Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2UYyfZL Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 It's easy to feel, when we are in a couple, that it might be a lot more fun to be single: and - of course - vice versa. Which of these stories is true though? For more on this theme, read our blog: www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/i-wish-i-was-still-single/ Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2tjeDnm Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2TS1Of2 2I9dGIf MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2E471uP Watch more films on RELATIONSHIP in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationship You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2I9dGIf Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan

 There's a particular kind of argument that can take place in a relationship when one person starts to be - provocatively - too 'rational' and logical. It sounds like this might be a clever and good move, but excessive logic can constitute a kind of obtuseness all of its own. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2tjL7xK Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2MZaJsL 2SseZ9X FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2DwEVqF “It seems odd at first to imagine that we might get angry, even maddened, by a partner because they were, in the course of a discussion, proving to be too reasonable and too logical. We are used to thinking highly of reason and logic. We are not normally enemies of evidence and rationality. How then could these ingredients become problematic in the course of love? But from close up, considered with sufficient imagination, our suspicion can make a lot of sense. When we are in difficulties what we may primarily be seeking from our partners is a sense that they understand what we are going through. We are not looking for answers (the problems may be too large for there to be any obvious ones) so much as comfort, reassurance and fellow-feeling. In the circumstances, the deployment of an overly logical stance may come across not as an act of kindness, but as a species of disguised impatience.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Sq72Cl Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2SseZ9X Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Creative Seed creativeseed.co.za/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Polyamory sounds like a fantastic idea: all the joys of exploration and all the security of a solid relationship. But can the reality really measure up? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2WQtovc Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2E5geTU 2SQxMeN MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Dxxuj0 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2SQxMeN Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan

 Coming soon: a new series - Know Yourself - by the School of Life takes a look at modern relationships - and their joys and sorrows. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Gnkq3J Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2MZJdv0 2BvXJGC FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2SQwhxb MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2I7pZ7X Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2BvXJGC Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Khyan Mansley twitter.com/khyan Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 There's a special kind of argument that can arise in a couple when, for a range of reasons, there hasn't been enough sex. Unfortunately, couples tend to feel too ashamed to mention what the argument is really about - and so squabble about essentially unrelated things. Even worse, the fact there are arguments makes it ever less likely that sex will actually take place in the future. The couple is stuck in a cycle that needs to be understood - and then broken. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2SqyGzd Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2I3sGaC 2SIhh45 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Dy0R4U “It could, on the surface, be an argument about almost anything: what time to leave for the airport, who forgot to post the tax form, where to send the children to school… But, in reality, in disguise, unmentioned and unmentionable, it is typically the very same argument, the no-sex argument…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2SuokhG Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2SIhh45 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: David Crisp www.mistercrisp.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many of us want a job that is 'creative', but the reality of the jobs market can seriously challenge our hopes. Why are there not more creative positions? What do we really want when we use this word 'creative'? Using this film to understand the economy in greater depth can help us see our options and understand our pains. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2WHnV9T Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2GayFsl 2TwYlTk FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2GnacPR “For many of us, our strongest and at the same time vaguest desire is to be more creative. And when we think about what it would mean to be creative, we arrive at a dauntingly fixed range of jobs. We might be visually creative: and so identify that we want to be a painter, photographer, film-maker, designer or architect. We might be intellectually creative: and so want to be a novelist, journalist or academic. We might be musically creative: and so want to start a band. Or we might be sensorily creative: and so want to start a restaurant. The problem is that securing any of these jobs is - statistically speaking - almost impossible. We end up blocked, sure of what we want to be, yet also unable to break into our chosen field.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2HODsla Watch more films on WORK and CAPITALISM in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLcapitalism You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/london/community/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with: Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 It sounds odd but there are times when we deliberately want to make our partner sad, not because we are evil, but because their cheeriness leaves us feeling abandoned and isolated. The dynamic isn't mature, but it's certainly worthy of analysis - and a little education. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2WDpRAh Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2G8iegr 2SaxBva FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2SohZUe “There is a kind of argument that begins with one partner deliberately - and for no immediately obvious reason - attempting to spoil the good mood and high spirits of the other. The cheerful partner may be cooking a cake for their visiting nephew or whistling a tune while they rearrange the kitchen. They may be making plans for the weekend or discussing what fun it will be to see an old school friend again soon. Or they may be expressing unusual optimism about their professional future and financial prospects.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RAko9D Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2SaxBva Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Peter Caires @peterlikesthis www.petercaires.com Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 We're generally taught nowadays to think very well of ourselves - and look with horror at religions' suggestions that we conceive of ourselves as 'sinners'. Yet, paradoxically, thinking of yourself as by nature a little sinful can lie at the origins of some very fine and noble traits of character. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Bcm0RH Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2FUfUJD 2HL5SfU FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2sWtMdL “One of the strangest ideas bequeathed to us by religion is the notion that it might be wise and socially beneficial to think of ourselves as being, every one of us, sinners. This seems, at first glance, both patently untrue - and deeply unhelpful. The vast majority of us have committed no particularly egregious crime and might feel understandably targeted and shamed to have to carry such a dark and archaic title. Furthermore, a burden of non-specific guilt seems like a sure route to damaged morale and a hounded personality.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2G8fZbV Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2HL5SfU Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Many of us struggle to cope with partners who are by their nature emotionally avoidant. Part of the solution comes from recognising the challenges involved, having sympathy for what makes people avoidant and learning to apply some well-tested new patterns of behaviour. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2G5wXrz Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2HDVnuG 2WqVXzm FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2CT2kSK “There are, for many of us, few people as attractive as the avoidant; the sort that are permanently a little mysterious; who don’t speak so much; around whom one never quite knows where one is; in whose eyes there is a faraway look, and perhaps a certain melancholy too; in whose hearts we intuit a sadness we long to, but never quite can, touch; people who seem to promise us intimacy and connection, and yet who remain - however long we have been with them - mesmerisingly unreassuring.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RoxAhG Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2WqVXzm Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Lottie Kingslake lottiekingslake.co.uk/work Title animation produced in collaboration with: Vale Productions www.valeproductions.co.uk/

 Without quite knowing we do this, we often behave as if other people should understand what we want and feel by magic, without us putting things into words. It's a relic from childhood which we should outgrow, doing the world the favour of expressing our moods cogently, rather than hoping others can guess at them. They can't, even the very nice ones! Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2W9oYPW Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2W9oYPW 2U7S2FG FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2T5RRdF “It sounds absurd when stated baldly, but we do not always - at some deep level - understand that we need to speak to those whom we so badly wish would understand us. We long for our intentions to be known, for our moods to be honoured, for our states of mind to be read - but we do not for that matter want to speak or particularly see an urgent need to do so. We want to be guessed at, intuited, read by a kind of magic we don’t realise we believe in. We want people to know what we have not bothered to tell them. We may even, in certain moods, suspect that they know full well what we think and want - but are deliberately frustrating us in order to score points and humiliate us. The only explanations for them not having guessed already is rudeness, a lack of love or extreme stupidity.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RWF00h Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2U7S2FG Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Animation by Martin Stacey www.martinstacey.co.uk & Neil Evan www.neilevan.com

 We should give due recognition to the truly grave hurt that can unfold, within established relationships, when there is almost no touch left between the parties, when one partner repeatedly moves to hold the other’s hand - and nothing much happens in response. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Hpr4Yl Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2FOdWd4 2FOdwn0 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2MpbWJw “We live in an age increasingly prepared to see hurtful aspects lurking within many apparently so-called minor situations, and ready to lend greater public acknowledgement to what had previously been merely private pains. It is in this context that we should give due recognition to a truly grave hurt that can unfold, within established relationships, when there is almost no touch left between the parties, when one partner repeatedly moves to hold the other’s hand, or perhaps caress their shoulder or waist - and receives no response at all, or a subtle turn away and withdrawal.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RFuuuR Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2FOdwn0 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Hend and Lamiaa hendandlamiaa.com/ Directed & Designed by: Hend Esmat and Lamiaa Diab Animation by: Hend Esmat Lamiaa Diab Mona Diab Noura Kamal

 It could sound rather brutal to hear that we'll never find the right person, but it's in fact the most generous and optimistic sentiment, because only once we give up on the absurd dream of finding the Right Person (who doesn't exist for anyone), can we start to make it work with that far more realistic and likely partner: the good enough person. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2SVHOI2 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2VOxnYR 2TPXQn6 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2TOuyVO “Your fears are right: you won’t. It seems harsh to say it just now but the right partner for you doesn’t really exist: there are just different varieties and degrees of wrongness. It’s not your fault or theirs. Anyone, however lovely they seem at first, will turn out to be maddening, difficult and deeply disappointing in a few - but to you very important - ways.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2VVwvkX Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2TPXQn6 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Tomás Pichardo-Espaillat vimeo.com/tomatico hola.tomatico.net/

 Choosing what to eat on a date might sound like a very trivial and inconsequential move but if a date is an audition for love, then food can play a subtle and significant role in communicating who we are and why we might be a suitable match. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Da2HtA Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2DbtR3i 2M9M44i FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Fu9tg2 “Restaurants have traditionally enjoyed a crucial and privileged place in the history of dating, providing us with enough privacy to get to know one another and enough public scrutiny to help us feel safe as we do so. The food has largely been an excuse. But what we decide to eat and drink together isn’t merely incidental to the real task of mutual understanding. It too is rich in psychological clues, communicating messages about who we are and what we might be like over a lifetime. How we order can in a minor key belong to the task of winning someone else over to our cause.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Rxvykn Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2M9M44i Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Noelle Smith Design www.noellesmithdesign.com/

 What often holds us back from taking the initiative is the sense that other people out there must know better than we do. But in a great many cases, there is a more exciting, slightly scary and at heart thrilling idea to discover: that no one really knows. By this we mean that, in unexpected areas, there is no high up authority that can tell us for sure what is going to work or not, what is good or bad, why things are the way they are. Recognition of this can liberate us: we can work it out for ourselves; we can take take our own steps towards making sense of things, we can be original. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2RH1dPw Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2sgcOqM 2RgjZ13 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2CX1S7A MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2TAeUwW Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2RgjZ13 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Alex Morris vimeo.com/user880140/

 Being good guest doesn't - ultimately - have to do with not being a nuisance and laughing along with your hosts. It means having a character, which may mean daring to be oneself. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2FdCLQ5 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2FiIDXF 2VIBupk FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2seakJ8 “It’s normal to want to be a good guest; an intense wish to please tends to guide us when we accept a dinner invitation or spend a weekend with friends. And we generally fulfil this ambition by following a leading theory of what satisfies other humans: we mimic our hosts. We follow their lead in the conversation, we discuss what they want to discuss, we eat when they want to eat. We are malleable, we adjust; we laugh at pretty much anything they find funny. It sounds extremely generous and deeply well-intentioned but there’s a strange aspect to this theory: the mimetic person is not, in practice, especially pleasing. They may not be offensive, but nor are they particularly memorable, interesting or even likeable.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2VCkd0T Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2VIBupk Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch nickhilditch.com/

 Strangers have an odd habit of seeming a lot more attractive to us than long-established and well-known partners. That's not necessarily because they really are superior, simply that we know them a lot less well. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Rf29dV Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2Byjjt4 2rTOWst FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2QOOPxe “The Incumbent Problem refers to the vast, but often overlooked and unfair advantage that all new people, cities and jobs have over existing - or, as we put it, incumbent - ones. The beautiful person glimpsed briefly in the street as we step off the bus, the city visited for a few days of holiday, the job we read about in a few tantalising paragraphs of a magazine; these have unwise tendencies to seem immediately and definitively superior to our current partner, our long-established home and our committed workplace and can inspire us to sudden and (in retrospect sometimes) regrettable divorces, relocations and resignations…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2QM7JVz Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2rTOWst Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Alice Dunseath www.alicedunseath.com/

 If we are single, we tend to assume that the problem must lie with us not having found 'the right person'. But perhaps reality is a little more complicated: we might be single because we are, in certain ways we need to understand, difficult to love. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Rgajmm Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2BBgN5f 2Q09idg FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2RjkSoQ “The idea that one is in many ways an extremely difficult person to be in a relationship with may sound rather improbable and even at points offensive. Yet fully understanding and readily and graciously admitting to this possibility might be the surest way of making sure one is an endurable proposition over the long-term. There are few people more deeply insufferable than those who don’t, at regular intervals, suspect they might be so…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2GBiZiV Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2Q09idg Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Zedem media www.zedemanimations.com/en/home

 We often think that love is a natural emotion we'll experience when we come into contact with a wonderful person. In fact, it's an emotional skill we should and must practice in order to approach other humans with the required patience and generosity. Here is a guide to how to love. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2CuGMgp Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2BADQNI 2BA37HO FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2EGiwJN “One of the great intellectual puzzles that daily life forces all of us to consider on a slightly too regular basis is: ‘Why are other people so awful? How come they are so unreliable, aggressive, deceitful, mean, two-faced or cowardly?’ As we search for answers, we tend quite naturally to fall back on a standard, compact and tempting explanation: because they are terrible people. They are appalling, crooked, deformed or ‘bad’; that’s simply how some types are. The conclusion may be grim, but it also feels very true and fundamentally unbudgeable…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2BA37HO Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth tr-me.com/utitle-somegreybloke

 The stories we like to tell children about life tend to be sunny, sweet and optimistic. But such stories are not always either necessarily true or very wise. Here is a darker story from the School of Life, a story you probably shouldn't show children, but that might help them - and you - if you did. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2PYrLXL Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2Q0xzjw 2AczDzQ FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2BATjxa MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2rRcMoM Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/london/community/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nadav Nachmany vimeo.com/nadavnach

 Even people who are normally very nice tend to be, from close up within relationships, rather difficult and complicated. This shouldn't surprise us. There's simply nothing harder than trying to live alongside another human for the long-term. We should dare to understand the ways in which love makes us a little monstrous... Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Ut8VLU Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2QKuats 2G4zCTN FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/ MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2BZxXLx Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2G4zCTN Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Avi Ofer www.aviofer.com/

 Believing that many of the big things in our lives come down to luck is, in a way, a rather insulting thought. We put so much effort into controlling our own destinies. Nevertheless, a wise life is one in which we accept how much lies outside of our control, for good and ill - and where we make a gracious accommodation with the terrifying power of Luck. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2rBuNHT Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2EmVSXI 2rrHlRQ FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2B51Nwo ”We don’t anymore nowadays much believe in Luck - or what was, in earlier ages, known as Fortune. We would think it extremely suspicious if someone explained that they had been sacked, but added that this was simply the result of ‘bad luck’. And we would think it equally strange if someone said they had made a fortune, but ascribed their triumph to mere ‘good luck’. We resist the notion that luck can play a significant role as much in our failures as in our successes. Luck is a substantial offence against modern ideals of control, strategy and foresight. We understand ourselves to be - for better and for worse - the authors of our own destinies.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: www.theschooloflife.com/london/about-us/ Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2rrHlRQ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Avi Ofer www.aviofer.com/

 Some of the most difficult relationships are those between people who can be categorised as 'avoidant' and others who are labelled 'anxious.' Learn to know which of these two you might be - and how better to handle the tensions that arise in a pairing with your counterpart. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2E9cxhd Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2AISjqj 2PchwyB FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2zwmdOT “There are so many ways to be unhappy in love, but one kind which modern psychology has given particular attention to are relationships, very high in number, in which one of the parties is defined as avoidant in their attachment patterns - and the other as anxious. Attachment Theory is the term given to a set of ideas about how we love and the role of childhood therein originally developed by the English psychologist John Bowlby in the 50s and 60s. It divides up humanity into three categories according to our varying capacity to behave with confidence and trust in relationships.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2zB8573 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/london/community/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Amanda Eliasson vimeo.com/artofam

 Arguments in relationships are always tricky but given that they are also inevitable, the skill we need to learn is how to fight well rather than not fight at all. By 'well' we mean, with charity, compassion, understanding, humour, intelligence and good will. Here is a guide to the best sorts of arguments in relationships. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2KKR1j8 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2DVZGOj 2reyMJU FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2zB2bCO “There are couples that seem never to argue. Their relationships are marked by enormous outward politeness; they say thank you a lot; they make each other cups of tea; they can look rather horrified when there’s a mention of a squabble in someone else’s life. It’s understandable if they’re privately a little pleased with themselves. But surface harmony isn’t, in reality, any reliable sign of health in love because it’s impossible to try to merge two lives without regularly encountering deep sources of incompatibility. A lack of arguments is more likely to be a sign that we have given up caring than a superhuman achievement of maturity.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2E9gKl2 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2reyMJU/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Lois de Silva www.loisdesilva.com/

 A lot of dating advice suggests that, to be attractive, we should focus on our looks, our clothes and our ability to choose a good venue. But the true secret to proving attractive is to know how to reveal our vulnerability, our maturity and our degree of self-knowledge. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2KyXBcp Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2PWaqUl 2PW7Ttj FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2KyzSZW “The goal can be stated simply enough: the overwhelming priority, when on a date with someone we like, is to persuade them to like us back. But the simplicity of the mission masks the complexity required to achieve it. Typically, the advice focuses on externals: what to wear, when to unfurl a napkin, what to order… But such counsel, however well-meaning, is at odds with what we ourselves know about attraction: that it is profoundly focused on psychology.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2SdKPml Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2PW7Ttj Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Illustrated by Natalia Ramos nataliarama.com Animated by Alexa Ledesma www.alexaledesma.com

 One of the reasons many of us find social encounters difficult is that they force into that particular conversational byway called small-talk - where we have to pay a lot of attention to the weather and the upcoming holidays. But what is small talk, why does it exist and how can we learn to navigate it more fruitfully? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2QjIU29 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2ScXVAb 2AuqvFY FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2r6Gtlp “A lot of discomfort about going to social engagements is rooted in what can sound like a rather high-minded concern: a hatred of small talk. We can develop a dread of parties because we know how likely we are to end up wedged into conversations about the weather, parking, traffic or the way we plan to spend the forthcoming holidays - when there would be so many deeper and more dignified topics to address: the future of humanity, the fate of the nation, or the melancholy state of our hearts. We resent parties for holding up an ideal of community and dialogue while trapping us in unproductive and insincere banter; for making us more lonely than we ever would be in our own homes.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2TNFoMr Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2AuqvFY Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope www.gemmagreenhope.com/

 There's no more common response to a partner's remarks than to find oneself in a 'defensive' mood. It's hugely understandable, but at points unfruitful. What follows is a short guide to reversing out of defensive moods for the sake of healthier communication. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2RZTysj Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2AaQTEG Download our App no on Android, IOS + PC: bit.ly/2R8n6Ed FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2BhJtkP “We often operate in romantic life under the mistaken view - unconsciously imported from law courts and school debating traditions - that the person who is ‘right’ or has the stronger case should, legitimately, ‘win’ any argument. But this is fundamentally to misunderstand what the point of relationships might be. It is not to defeat an opponent (there are no prizes for ‘winning’ other than self-satisfied loneliness) so much as to try to help each other to evolve into the best versions of ourselves.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2FIGuX9 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2R8n6Ed Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rensyta Mihardja deancarensyta.brushd.com/work/23840/show-reel #TheSchoolOfLife #Relationships #Arguments

 At first glance, nothing immediately seems to connect the business of dating with the European philosophical movement of Existentialism. However, on closer inspection, the thoughts of Existential philosophers contain a number of insights that serve to illuminate aspects of the dating world. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2TsNR7K Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2S5XEPL 2KgB0Bf FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2QXvPZu “Dating brings us close to a particular strand of philosophy that, the rest of the time, might not seem particularly relevant to our lives: existentialism. One of the movement’s major proponents - Jean-Paul Sartre - developed a set of ideas that help explain, and give dignity to, the anxiety, excitement and at points vertigo we may experience as we go through the dating ritual. A key concept of Existentialism is expressed in Sartre’s somewhat obscure but useful phrase: “Being precedes essence”. What Sartre meant by ‘being’ are the bits of our life that we are free to choose for ourselves: how we live, what job we do, how we conceive of what happens to us. And by ‘essence’, he refers to things that lie outside our command: our biological nature, the flow of history, the position of the stars…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Bih65X Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2KgB0Bf Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Andrew Lees www.damnfinemedia.co.uk/ #TheSchoolOfLife #Existentialism #JeanPaulSartre

 A lot of our melodrama and self-pity comes from seeing ourselves, as a species, as standing at the center of the cosmos. We take ourselves far too seriously and would benefit from dethroning ourselves graciously. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2qIGPyp Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2DCrfx5 2OEhj7h FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2DHPw4T "The modern age is inherently anthropocentric in outlook (from anthropos, greek for human), that is, it places human beings and their experience and concerns at the centre of the hierarchy, above the claims of nature, animals, gods or the universe more broadly. We are now, in every way, in our own eyes, the centre of the show." MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2RS0Xda Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/app-2/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Kate Balchin www.katebalchin.com/

 We spend an inordinate amount of time concentrating on the question of whether or not we are liked. It would be a great deal wiser to put our energy into actually proving likeable and persuading our audience of our affection for them. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2RQW2sV Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2JYouWR 2DAODLd FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2JXaFrX “One of the most acute questions we ask ourselves in relation to new friends and acquaintances is whether or not they like us. The question feels so significant because, depending on how we answer it in our minds, we will either take steps to deepen the friendship or, as is often the case, immediately make moves to withdraw from it so as to spare ourselves humiliation and embarrassment.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2T7u1yP Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Download our App: www.theschooloflife.com/app-2/ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch nickhilditch.com/

 For some of us, having to eat alone in public in a restaurant is a major challenge - for reasons that go deep into our psyche and our past. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2SPDdI2 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2F5G8JI 2Qmrj6G FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2F4kcyt “We’re spending a few days on business in a town where we know no one. It’s dinner time and, feeling claustrophobic in our hotel room, we wander the main streets looking for a place to eat. The bars and restaurants are filled with loving couples and animated groups of friends. We gingerly enter a diner but, as we take in the warmth and convivial atmosphere, are struck by acute self-consciousness. We blush crimson and clumsily turn to leave before an approaching waiter has had the chance to offer us a seat. We eventually find a dried-out sandwich at the station kiosk, which we eat furtively on a park bench near some loitering pigeons.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2DoPA9o Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2Qmrj6G Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth tr-me.com/utitle-somegreybloke

 The issue of who shows an interest in having a physical relationship in a couple might be mistaken for rather trivial; after all, what counts is that it happens, not that one or the other party initiates. But in truth, the question of who first displays their enthusiasm is vital to the well-being of a couple. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2JEZ7JD Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2JKicdG 2DlavKB FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2PMtIL2 “It can seem a highly trivial subject to get so upset about - being rightly no more significant than who should open the door first, or open a new jam jar first. And yet, judging from the heartache it tends to generate, it appears to matter very much indeed. It’s at the root of many affairs, it is the catalyst for vicious arguments and bitterness, the long-term future of small children can be decided by it - and couples routinely end up in therapy or (more often) the divorce courts because of it. At the heart of the drama are all the complexities involved when, late at night, in the darkness, one person’s hand moves over to tentatively touch the other’s body in a way that signals a desire to initiate either lovemaking or a cuddle - and nothing much happens in return...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2F67Q9f Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2DlavKB Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Diyala Muir diyalamuir.com/

 Find out more about our arrival and read about the 22nd-24th February 2019 event here: bit.ly/2P5AV97 Do you speak a different language to English? Did you know you can submit Subtitles on all of our videos on TR-me? For instructions how to do this click here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623 SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Tumblr: schooloflifechannel.tumblr.com Produced in collaboration with Reflective Films www.reflectivefilms.co.uk/

 We all know how lovely friendship can be, but we seldom focus properly on what a good friend should actually be like. As a result, we miss out on opportunities to become precisely that sort of friend - and enrich the social lives of all those we meet. A short masterclass in the art of friendship. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2OXCk1M Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2RluXxC 2qkKvX6 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2AApZYo “Some of the reason why we aren’t, collectively, so good at friendship, is that we don’t have a clear idea of what a really good friend might be like. It may therefore be worth trying to draw up a list of an ideal candidate, so as to focus our desires and spur us on to acquire the sort of character we would want to find in others…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Rq9vYw Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2qkKvX6 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Peter Caires vimeo.com/peterlikesthis #TheSchoolOfLife #Self #Friendship

 We know that some of the difference between success and failure in dating comes down to having the right sort of chat up lines. Here is a selection of some of the finest, most effective ones we know. However, crucially, these aren't lines you say to a prospective partner; these are lines you need to say to yourself. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2PqdSWb Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2qiHgiM 2DcTmCz FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2DcJSYe MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Q7lrhu Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2DcTmCz Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #Relationships #ChatUpLines

 Having an affair is - nowadays - considered hugely taboo and shocking as well. However, that's not always been the case, and it might not be the case forever. We should look back to the history and forward to the future of affairs to learn to see our relationships more clearly. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2yX0yOM Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2OJFSo0 2yq0Xtu FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2yUs8Mn “An affair is a love - or physical - story between two people, one of whom (at least) is ostensibly committed to someone else. Most importantly, in our times, an affair is a catastrophe, pretty much the greatest betrayal that can befall us, a harbinger of untrammelled suffering, frequently the end of the marriage it has violated and almost always an occasion for fierce moralising and the division of participants into goodies (who have been betrayed) and monsters (who have betrayed).” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2S9AnNu Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships And HISTORY OF IDEAS You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2yq0Xtu Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth tr-me.com/utitle-somegreybloke #TheSchoolOfLife #HistoryOf #Affairs

 We are nowadays sold the story that we can, with a bit of luck, all have relatively pain and error free lives. But in fact, life is fundamentally catastrophic and tragic in structure. None of us will get through this life without some grave and searing reversals. It isn't that we've been cursed. We're just human - and we need to be prepared and have plenty of compassion for ourselves and others. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2EE10ax Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2Jb78G5 2q5LZUX FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2AnquFd “We may not think of it in quite such naive terms, but we are liable to start out - somewhere in the semi-conscious mind - with a script of how our lives might go. First will come education, with its deep friendships, moments of intoxicating self-discovery, tender first loves and at points, sheer riotous good fun. Then will come a career, something that pays, but won’t be done merely for money. We’ll be competent, respectable and fairly honoured for the intensity of our efforts.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2D0hOXR Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2q5LZUX Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Andrew Benincasa www.andrewbenincasa.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #HowToCope

 Being polite is a wonderful and hugely necessary quality; but there can - in love - be moments when politeness becomes an impediment to sincere feeling. We may at points need to give free rein to our resentments and annoyances and say it like it is - if we're later to feel properly loving and spontaneous. Good relationships are filled with respect, but they also know moments of proper frankness. There are moments when we need to put extreme politeness to one side. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2xii8MV Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2xgQ2BJ 2MDVxzx FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2paArzo “It’s natural to imagine that the highest virtue in love would be kindness and, a close second, politeness. But there is an odd danger lurking here: a relationship where we are overly polite, where there is not enough directness, where things go wrong not because of a lack of tenderness or serenity but because of a stifling excess of manners, because there aren’t enough raised voices, insults, legitimate furies and moments where both partners feel free to call each other idiots and much worse...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2xpLNDl Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2MDVxzx Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Angie Phillips www.angiephillips.co/

 The death of a loved one is pretty much the saddest thing that can befall us. The French 16th century philosopher Montaigne once wrote: 'To philosophise is to learn to die.' Here are a set of the School of Life's darkest but most consoling thoughts on death. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2yF0uTJ Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2CKZW2T 2P42ZZM FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2yLbCya “Someone we loved so much has died. It can be hard to know where to turn. For religions, dying was regarded as an essential, immensely important, part of existence; it was supposed to happen at a time appointed by God or by fate. It was not an embarrassing or despair-inducing end point, it was a transformation: the soul would continue its life in another form or in another place. Those who died had only ‘departed’ and lived on elsewhere. Perhaps after our own death, our souls would be reunited with theirs.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2IYDxPT Watch more films on SELFin our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2P42ZZM Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Tomás Pichardo-Espaillat hola.tomatico.net/ #TheSchoolOfLife #Loss #CopingWithDeath

 To get tickets for the event with Alain and Esther in London on the 4th December 2018, please click here: bit.ly/2PDF5lb Esther Perel is one of the world's great psychotherapists, with a particular genius at helping people with love and relationships. She was at the School of Life in June and returns this December - where she'll be talking on stage with Alain de Botton. You may also want to subscribe to Esther Perel’s TR-me Channel here: tr-me.com/users/UC4eN7PS9mi8__4EYxy6VpFw Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2CJ6Vtb Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2NJoXN4 2OsaZEk MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2yhZLsf Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2OsaZEk Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Tim Butcher www.timbutcher.co.uk/

 From our earliest days, all of us are set on a path towards physical growth and maturity. What is less well known is that there are forces within us that - in comparable ways - push us towards emotional growth and maturity. Throughout our lives, sometimes at considerable cost to our short term peace of mind, we're engaged on a journey of emotional development that we should learn to understand, recognise and honour. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2Rt3lHX Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2yb8YCt 2NwneKW FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2C4lqa5 “We know well enough that we are equipped with an innate drive for physical growth; that the human animal is geared to keep developing towards its outward mature form, adding muscle and bone and fatty tissue, in a spontaneous process of development that begins in our earliest days in the womb and ends around our sixteenth year…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2QBEujF Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2NwneKW Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Nick Hilditch nickhilditch.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #EmotionalGrowth #Self

 We tend to be told, from a young age, that the very worst thing to do when we like someone is to seem too direct or keen. Showing our interest is, apparently, fatal to the chances of a relationship. But is playing it cool always so necessary? And are spontaneous desire and enthusiasm always so taboo? The School of Life puts forward an original theory of how to play things wisely at the start. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2PhzbG3 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2PpClr6 2y1zRZu FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2RvsXnk “One of the paradoxes of the dating game is that we know that by coming across as enthusiastic at an early stage - if we ring them the next day, if we are open about how attractive we find them, if we suggest meeting them again very soon - we are putting ourselves at a high risk of disgusting the very person we would so like to get to know better...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2C0hA1u Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2y1zRZu Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Gemma Green-Hope www.gemmagreenhope.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #Relationships #Love

 When we've been left for someone else, we'll be devastated of course, but it's easy to up the torture further by thinking that a) the rival is so much better than us b) our ex will be so much happier with them than they ever were with us. Both ideas are profoundly flawed, as our film shows. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2P0nxPO Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2OqscgO 2zLZe2V FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2y4RR4j “Sometimes, we are not only left in love; we are left for someone else - a rival who comes to assume a large, indeed monstrous position in our imaginations. The torture comes down to one essential question which pursues us into the early hours: What do they have that we do not? Part of the agony rests on a basic feature of human psychology; we know ourselves from the inside, in great and dispiriting detail, whereas we can know others only from the outside, from what they choose to reveal, which may be almost nothing, aside from an attractive face and a charming manner.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2O0IL3H Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2zLZe2V Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Lois de Silva www.loisdesilva.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #BreakUps #Relationships

 Fractious couples are often made up of one party who is 'avoidant' (hiding their intimacy needs) and one who is 'anxious' (nagging and pressuring counter productively for their intimacy needs to be met). These couples go through cycles that run from cosiness to fury to sulk to blow up to cosiness. Why do these cycles happen and why are they so hard to break? What might be a better way forward? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2IwEEpQ Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2NYDkBW 2NWdRJJ FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2zLuEXc “There is a certain sort of relationship that is alternately passionate, fiery and painfully unfulfilling - and that tends to puzzle both outsiders and its participants; a relationship between one person who is, as psychologists put it, anxiously attached and another who is avoidantly attached. There is, in such couplings, a constant game of push and pull. The anxiously attached party typically complains - more or less loudly - that their partner is not responsive enough: they accuse them of being emotionally distant, withholding, cold and perhaps physically uninterested too. The avoidant lover, for their part, stays relatively quiet but in their more fed-up moments, complains that the anxious party is far too demanding, possibly ‘mad’ and, as they put it pejoratively, ‘needy’. One person seems to want far too much, the other far too little.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2QrwC4v Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2NWdRJJ Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Direction & Illustration- Natalia Ramos www.nataliarama.com #TheSchoolOfLife #AttachmentStyles #Relationships

 The way we date nowadays has a history that it pays to try to understand as we navigate the ups and downs of the dating game. Never before in history have we had such high expectations of dating - and rarely have we been more confused. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2zsKsxP Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2DqCDwo 2Q4cV2f FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2Q4UKtd “Our present dating habits can feel like a natural part of existence, but in reality, they’ve only been around for a very short time and, we predict, won’t continue for too much longer in their current form. Dating has a history, which it pays to try to understand as we navigate the ritual’s paradoxical and often confusing priorities. Let’s take a selective look backwards - as well as a peak forwards - at the history and future of dating...” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2Ieo91t Watch more films on HISTORY in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLhistory You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2Q4cV2f Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth tr-me.com/utitle-somegreybloke #TheSchoolOfLife #HistoryOf #Dating

 We often look to our phones to help us resolve the tensions of our love lives: they promise us distraction, new friends and glorious escape. We can forgive ourselves our deep attachment to them - while nevertheless being a bit sceptical as to their ultimate effects on our chances of forming good relationships. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2OPdnBe Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2NFa9E4 2xLOgZ1 FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2QX3yms “It would be most of our first choices to have relationships in the real world; but for many of us, it is a great deal more plausible to pursue them with, and via, our phones. Phones provide exemplary compensation for the frustrations of living with actual people. Unlike them, they are always responsive to the touch and their malleability provides the perfect excuse for disengagement from the trickier aspects of true connections.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2IdKkop Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2xLOgZ1 Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Natalia Biegaj www.nb-animation.com/ #TheSchoolOfLife #Relationships #Technology

 Attachment theory refers to a set of ideas formulated by psychologists in the 1960s that gives us an exceptionally useful guide to how we behave in relationships. Knowing whether we are secure, anxious or avoidant in our attachment patterns gives us a vocabulary with which to get on top of some very tricky dynamics and helps us grow into more predictable and more joyful companions in love. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2BF0N5N Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2MCcRZx 2N2UMAY FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2N2NKvQ “One of the greatest questionnaires in the history of 20th-century psychology had a modest start in the pages of a local Colorado newspaper The Rocky Mountain News in July 1985. The work of two University of Denver psychologists Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver, the questionnaire asked readers to identify which of three statements most closely reflected who they were in love.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2MrIVA3 Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2N2UMAY Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Julia Marchowska marchowskajulia.wixsite.com/mysite

 Reading the Comments sections beneath films and articles can leave one feeling certain that humanity must have gone mad - or is inherently vicious and unkind. The truth is a good deal less tragic: it's just that we've never been taught how to comment or how to spot the connection between our own unhappiness and alienation - and our desire to take vengeance in the anonymous digital world. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: bit.ly/2OwyLew Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: bit.ly/2pbOPHy 2pkcbel FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: bit.ly/2xiZswD “Comment sections online should be the beautiful public squares of our democracies: places we navigate to for frank and thoughtful exchanges of ideas; places where we learn to understand each other’s point of view and where serious discussions evolve over time. But, of course, they are havens of the grossest abuse, verbal violence and cruelty. It’s understandable if we sometimes conclude, after time reading comments, that humanity has lost its way…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: bit.ly/2xnlAoR Watch more films on Work and Capitalism in our playlist: bit.ly/TSOLcapitalism You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: tr-me.com/utitle-timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2pkcbel Facebook: facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Damn Fine Media www.damnfinemedia.co.uk/